Hands Free Masturbation

Take some time to choose your intention, then state it aloud to yourself as you begin your practice session. A clear intention guides your practice and helps negate shame.

Moving your hips circulates the pleasure and excitement throughout your body. Play with different thrusts and pressures. For individuals with a penis, you will need to experiment to find the optimum position for the Fleshlight. You might wish to adjust your thrusting height during the practice. For individuals with a vulva, your pleasure might involve thrusting. Some yogis mute the feel of the vibrator with cloth. Be sure to experiment with the many pleasurable attachments for use on the head of the vibrator.

Breathe and moan with the rhythms of your hands-free thrusting. Important information for your erotic future: Does playing with breath and sound change your sexual experience? Many of us learned ways of breathing that numb out pleasurable feelings. Healthy porn watching is about feeling more. One popular breathing exploration you will see in these videos involves inhaling and exhaling through the cut-off top of a plastic bottle. This simple strategy allows you to take in more oxygen and interrupts breathing habits. And let your moans (on your exhale) express the wonders that you are feeling in your body. Hearing yourself moan can be a major turn on.

Masturbation is about massaging the genitals. Hands-free arousal is about massaging your whole body. Now is the time to learn self-erotic massage. Repeating strokes over and over can be powerful. As you touch, imagine all parts of your body are your genitals. By caressing your body, you re-member yourself.

Bring your attention away from the porn to your own body for five breaths. As you breathe, scan your body for the places of most pleasure. How do your hands on your body contribute to your arousal? Then return your attention to the porn. (Pause the porn during these five breaths, if you wish.) By moving your attention from the porn to your body and then back to the porn, you are able to sense and savor your aroused body in new ways. Notice how each person in the video brings attention to their body differently. There is no one way to place your attention inside your own body. Experiment with what feels good to you. Sometimes, you want this experience of feeling your body to last for more than five breaths.

Your experience of healthy porn watching could involve savoring the sensitive nerve endings of the anus. We highly recommend the pleasures of vibration for both the male and female prostate. The easiest way to include anal and prostate stimulation into your practice is with a vibrating butt plug. This pleasure device vibrates and relaxes the two anal sphincters. In individuals with vulvas, the butt plug stimulates various erectile tissues including the prostate/urethral sponge, the perineal sponge and the legs of the clitoris. In individuals with penises, the butt plug massages the prostate, sometimes triggering ejaculation. For many folks, the anal area is relatively unexplored. Yes, there are sensuous frontiers to be discovered even within our own bodies.

Mindful Masturbation is a simple, yet powerful practice. It requires dedication, and becomes its own reward. Just pay full attention while you masturbate. Don’t let yourself get distracted by imagination. Keep your primary focus upon yourself, your own body, your penis and your own sensations. This path of self-pleasure can take you into realms of ecstasy you have never before experienced. 

At the end of every session, you are invited to quietly savor all that has happened within your body. Were there any surprises during this practice? What else stands out? Feeling and reflecting for a few minutes allows what you experienced in the practice to move from short term memory to long term memory. This taking the experience deep into your neurology is what psychologist Rick Hanson calls "installing" the experience. Remembering your practice can be a powerful motivation for future practice sessions.