Claiming Pleasure

Many of us have learned the bad habits of holding our breath and not making any sounds as we masturbate. Watch the practitioners in these videos as they explore how moaning and playing with breath can enhance their pleasure. The first demonstration is a longer segment from Peter in Bratislava who delights in breathing, moaning and moving during his erotic practice sessions. The more you breathe, the more you feel. The way you breathe helps you to enjoy your porn experience. Some folks find speeding up their breathing or slowing down their breathing enhances their sexual pleasure. Some play with different patterns and rhythms of breath. One popular breathing exploration you will see in these videos involves inhaling and exhaling through the cut-off top of a plastic bottle. This simple strategy allows you to take in more oxygen and interrupts breathing habits. On your exhale, let your moans express what you are feeling in your body. Hearing yourself moan is a major turn on for many.

Five to ten seconds of shaking during your porn watching helps to reset your nervous system, interrupt muscle habits and spread orgasmic feelings throughout your body. A short shake allows something new to happen. Standing helps you to recognize places where you hold tension. Shaking is medicine for those places that need to relax. Shake it up, baby. Twist and shout.

Often when stimulating your genitals, one hand is free to pleasure other parts of your body. Because you are aroused, this self-touch spreads erotic pleasure throughout your body. Repeating slow circles on the belly is a favorite stroke of many healthy porn watching practitioners. This stimulates the enteric nervous system or “second brain.” This massage of the belly also feels delightful. Try circling with a variety of rhythms and pressures.

As Wa Ama brings more awareness to his porn watching, he acknowledges the complicated contexts surrounding porn.

Sex educator Harley Swiftdeer advocates the practice of generating intense excitement in the genitals and then raising that excitement up through the body to the heart. One way this can be done is by clenching the pelvic floor muscles with each breath, visualizing the heart pulling pleasure up from the genitals. You can also stimulate this flow of pleasure by repeatedly moving your hand from your genitals up to your heart. Sometimes this results in having orgasms in your heart. Swiftdeer calls this Heart Pleasuring. Can watching porn support and nourish this heart-pleasuring? Yes! Below are some suggestions for people in relationships. Keep a file on your desktop of your lover’s face. At some point in your session, pause the porn and open the file (preferably life-size, looking directly at you). Connect with your partner for a couple of breaths. Perhaps say something out loud, such as “I love you,” or “I look forward to being this aroused with you.” One healthy porn-watching practitioner remarked: “Often, when watching porn, I think about Elise. I have a portrait of her next to my computer and at least once during every session, I look her directly in the eyes and say, ‘I like feeling this with you.’ My wife likes that every time I masturbate to porn, I include her.”