When you discovered masturbation as a boy, whether you figured it out
yourself, or learned from someone else, you may have developed a habit
of masturbating rather quickly and quietly, and in a rather fixed style.
After puberty, men often maintain a somewhat predictable style for
masturbation sessions. Many fellows condition themselves this way early
on—due to a lack of privacy, and a lack of open, honest encouragement.
Though that kind of inhibition is common to many men, it is never too
late to begin to change this for yourself. You can make this choice now,
if no one coached you in how to masturbate most effectively and
encouraged you to relax, to enjoy it fully and for as long as you want.
How many guys had a masturbation mentor who urged them to make all the
noise they wanted?
In fact, right now, the seeds for limitless possibilities of bliss with
your penis are being planted within you. That is happening right now,
with these words and images as you allow the possibilities to awaken in
your body. Like a plant sprouting, this grows and rises above the
surface of your awareness: the potential for far greater enjoyment of
self-pleasure than you have ever felt before!
Listen closely, breathe deeply and see the example before your eyes, of
how intense and powerful pure penile pleasure can be. Participate with
what you see and feel the response in your own body, the awakening of
unknown potentials. This journey can take you ever deeper and ever
higher. Varying your strokes is one important way to accomplish such
Many men actually get stuck in a kind of rudimentary style of
“piston-stroking” or some other particular way to stimulate the penis,
and may seldom venture into anything genuinely new.
In fact, there are no limits—not even your imagination! If you simply DO
this—observe yourself as you masturbate, pay full attention to what you
are doing and feeling, which is the essence of mindfulness, you are on
your way. It can help to photograph your masturbation sessions, or
videotape your self masturbating. In fact, it is a healthy thing to
become aroused by observing such photos or recordings; even if you are
not aroused, to observe your own practice “objectively” from the outside
is extremely valuable.
Set up your session in a private, comfortable surrounding, light a
candle, put on some relaxing or invigorating music, only not songs with
lyrics, rather, instrumental, drumming, or atmospheric sounds. Do some
breathing and stretching before you begin to arouse and stimulate
yourself. Resolve silently: I will not do this as I usually do
it—rather, I’ll push myself deliberately and happily into the
There is no need to breathe any one way with Mindful masturbation,
however breathing is a great tool for erotic enhancement, and be sure
you often breathe deep into your belly. Try the connected or rebirth
breathing of continuous in breath / outbreath without pauses. Vary your
breathing faster and slower. Also simply breathe naturally. With O2 it’s
You can invent this revitalized, revolutionary practice for yourself.
Use plenty of lubrication: oil, silicone, or if it’s water-based, keep a
little spray bottle of water handy to refresh the slickness. Explore
and improvise strokes not only to your penis… include your balls, invite
your anus to participate with gentle, rhythmic external caresses, and
also bring into the playfulness your entire body: inner thighs, belly,
chest, nipples, face, arms, legs, fingers, toes.
Let your entire body become the erogenous zone!
The best way to increase your variety of strokes is by
example, to masturbate with Blue Tyger in the video version of this
online, or use the Mindful Masturbation for Men DVD that Bruce created,
in which he coaches you in many different stroking patterns.
Challenge yourself to not only intensify your sessions, but also make
them longer. You can take yourself far beyond what many men call
“edging” when you also avoid a focus on having a full erection all the
time. Let it come and go. Don’t forget to give yourself permission to
moan, groan, sigh, gasp, and even shout out loud.
One more tip here is—vary your positions. If you often masturbate
sitting or lying down, get up and stand, walk around. Do knee-bends.
Walk into other rooms while you masturbate. Look out windows. Go
outdoors, if possible. Or do the entire session outdoors in Nature.
Learn more about the teachings of Bruce Grether and Blue Tyger at www.eroticengineering.com.
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